Zestful One

Little Pleasures in life

Posted by IcedNyior on December 1, 2008  |  No Comments

Little things in life do make me happy.

Utter bliss..

Thank you for coming to the BBQ dinner

Posted by IcedNyior on September 21, 2008  |  3 Comments

As I sit in my room in front of the PC nibbling of remnants of an orange drenched cake (one of my favourite cakes to bake) with chocolate frosting (made by Betty Crocker to save time), I am feeling utterly blessed to have such great friends.

Friends who would plan, organize and most importantly attend a BBQ party that was put together at the very last minute (less than 24 hrs). Friends who would take the LRT to and fro from my place just to come. Friends with whom I can have a BBQ dinner with lamb, chicken wings, sausages, fishballs mash potatoes and mee hoon. Friends which I can clink glasses of JD coke and white chardonnay with. Friends to play cho tai di with. Friends who lepak at my place till 4am and even help clean up.

To : Pam, Aree, Jazzy, Mag, Ayman + 2 friends, Craig, Fariz, Afdzal + gf, Jef, Linda and Erni, Thanks soo much!

The Meaning of Life

Posted by IcedNyior on September 16, 2008  |  3 Comments

Everyone is always looking for answers to the big question, “What is the meaning of life?” Some turn to science, some turn to religion, others turn to knowledge. For me, its not so much the MEANING of life, but the LIVING of that life that you have.

Its how you choose to live it: utilizing it to the fullest – being happy, learning new things everyday and achieving your goals/ambitions – or just let life pass you by – by moping around, emo-ing and taking things for granted.

I always believe that the secret to happiness in life is to learn to love life. That means learning to love yourself and all that is around you. This message was given to me some months back and till now I keep it in my phone and feel encourage when I read it.

I hope it does the same for you to :)

Love Affirmation

I am loved & loving.
I am surrounded by love.
I easily attract loving people & experiences into my life.
I embrace & claim a life filled & overflowing with love.
I am greatful for the love that surrounds me.
My circle of loving friends continues to expand.

Love is what I am.
I am a magnet for more & more love.
I joyfully express love everyday.
I love myself exactly the way I am.
I radiate love to everyone and everything.
The more love I give the more love I receive.
The love in my soul freely & fully expresses itself.
Love is all around.

Today I release the past & allow the healing of love into my life.
I am in love with my life.

Pondering deep thoughts at 3.50am……

Down in the dumps

Posted by IcedNyior on June 13, 2008  |  No Comments

I’m feeling very demotivated lately. I’m not sure if its the stress of exams or not. I’m sure a few of my friends have heard me saying that I want to defer my final sem and re-do it next sem. They think I’m joking.

This week or so, I have no drive and no energy to do anything. My mom would call it being malas. But its not that I’m malas. Its just that for some weird reason my heart is not into this. I’m not eating properly, I’m not sleeping properly. I feel like drawing the curtains so that its nice and dark in my room and curl up underneath my comforter and sleep for months.

This is the first time I have so many projects lined up all at one time. I missed the deadline for one of it already. One of the major ones. And that one also I couldn’t do it perfectly because I have no idea how to. I’m sending it in today, a week overdue. Basically, every bit of my work for the finals is half-heartedly done.

All this makes me wish that instead of projects, I have exam papers – like students in other courses. Projects all at one time overwhelm me. With exams, making notes and memorizing and cramming is what I do best.

When I tell people about this, all they say is, “wait till u start working. It’s even harder. Study life is your honeymoon life – enjoy memanjang”. Well, fuck you la! I’m sure u felt the same way when you were in college/uni. I’m sure at that point of time the world felt like it was going to crash down on you and bury you under its rubble. And studying now is WAAAYY different from the time that you were studying. There was less pressure to succeed and be perfect then.

At this point of time, I would trade anything, yes ANYTHING, to be able to defer my semester without any hassle or my parents making a bit fuss out of it.

I feel miserable *cries*

p/s: If you can’t get me on my phone, don’t be surprised. I need time out.

How Jealous are You?

Posted by IcedNyior on April 19, 2008  |  3 Comments

They say jealousy is part of a healthy relationship. I’ve known girls who purposely makes their boyfriends jealous so that they feel like their bfs really do love them. I myself have tried to test the boundaries of jealousy in my relationship by asking what makes him jealous and what wont.

DiscoveryHealth has this (really) short quiz that you can take to judge how jealous you are in a relationship.

For the heterosexual men, click HERE. For the heterosexual women, click HERE. For the homosexual people, sorry there isn’t a quiz for you :( I don’t make the rules.

Anyway, this is my results:

Score = 16/100

What does your score mean?

Most people experience a certain amount of fear that their loved one could leave them for someone else. After all, these things happen, and when they do, it is usually very painful.

You, on the other hand, appear to have a complete lack of jealous feelings. If you were honest with yourself while taking the test, this means that you are extremely secure, strong, and independent. You know that if your partner ever leaves you, you will survive with your self-esteem and dignity intact.

You realize that even though you might love your partner very much, s/he is not the only fish in the sea, and that you would eventually find happiness with someone else.

His on the other hand was a 40/100. LOL! Sounds like a miss independent kinda thing huh? But that doesn’t mean I don’t love you baby :*

Personally, I don’t think that jealousy should be part of the judging of how much you love the person. If you are always so jealous and keep tabs on your other half, its not jealousy, but obsession and controlling. (jgn terasa Pam!)

Like I said earlier, a bit of jealousy is healthy in a relationship but the most important thing is that you must learn to trust each other. Agreed?

Phase by phase

Posted by IcedNyior on April 15, 2008  |  No Comments

Early last month I wrote about the 2nd phase of my relationship. The first is the lovely dovey phase is where you getting to know each other and everything is perfect. There’s a saying that goes, “Even our fart smells like perfume”. LOL!

The second phase is when you start to bicker because all those little things that attract you becomes rather annoying. That’s when all the annoying habits start to surface and the fart turns stinky.

Then if you passed thru that phase, there’s the third phase where you learn to tolerate each other’s habits and also learn to talk it out with each other. I would say that I’m in the 3rd phase now. We’ve settled into a comfortable state where we aren’t too dependant on each other and learn to spend time together and also apart.

And the fourth phase, well, I haven’t been thru that yet.

I guess in every relationship its bound to be like that, many phases. And in each phase there is a possibility of things turning sour. For example, you might not be able to tolerate the habits or annoying stuff of your partner. Or you’ve settled into such a comfortable state that you get too bored of each other.

Best thing to do is to talk it out with each other or with someone else like a therapist. If you live in the East bay, here is a list of marriage therapists livermore.

Just 2 cents from a love newbie :P

The waiting game

Posted by IcedNyior on April 14, 2008  |  3 Comments

I never liked to play the waiting game. It annoys me how some girls (or guys *jeling kat Z*) can just wait for their bf/gf to sms back then wonder every minute why they didn’t contact them. All kinds of things will go thru their mind, "Is he/she with someone else?", "He/she promised to call", "He/she must be busy at work…err..i think so" and then they’ll start overthinking it.

Well, today I was forced to play the waiting game. He had to work at a no-handphones-allowed place so he lent his hp with his sibling for the day. Made me promise not to call/text the whole day Sunday. Promised to call Monday in the wee hours of the morning.

Obviously he didn’t call la kan? If not I won’t be writing this post. Couldn’t sleep anyway so spent time texting my exbf (we parted as friends and besides he’s one of the very few Sarawakian friends I hv here in KL) and also making Brownie Biscuits (very easy biscuits. Recipe at Zestful Eats ). Baking is so theraputic for me. LOL!

Oh, back to the waiting game. So yea, Girls (and guy *jeling Z*) don’t bother waiting for that call/sms. Put your mind on other things that are more productive. Why? Because even if you overanalyze and think so much about it, it wont make him/her call you any faster. Plus, well most of the time you actually do realize and know the real reason why he/she didn’t call.

Like in my case, I’m pretty sure he fell asleep without remembering or perhaps tak larat to call. Ta-daaaa…simple.

p/s: If he/she doesn’t give a good reason. Then you pula give silent treatment lor, two can play at that game. LOL!

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My Perspective of Love

Posted by IcedNyior on April 4, 2008  |  2 Comments

Miss Bella sms-ed me two nights ago asking “What is love in your own perspective?”

I replied, “Love is acceptance. Acceptance of each other, of different backgrounds, cultures & character. Understanding comes with acceptance. Acceptance is unconditional. Love does not have to be just between two people. It could be among friends, family, strangers you just met but clicked together.”

Don’t you agree? Without acceptance there is no tolerance, no understanding. When you accept someone, you accept how they are and everything about them. So what is love in your perspective?

p/s: I sms-ed him the same question. And his reply was “All you need is love – john lennon”

After that lovey dovey phase

Posted by IcedNyior on March 4, 2008  |  4 Comments

Its been more than a month now. The first month was wonderful you know. That getting to know each other. The lovey-dovey sayang-sayang phase. Its a really exciting time because everything is so new and nice. But what happened after that initial stage?

We’ve been having these little squabbles. Over silly little insignificant things. Things that are not important. I have to admit, it’s mostly on my part. Most of the time he’d give in apologizing.