The girls and I got together over the weekend to have a pre-Christmas / pre-engagement party for Fifi. It was a fun dinner and after our gift exchange/Secret Santa, she decided that we write down what we hope to see in 5 years in ourselves. Similar to a time capsule thing.

I thought it was appropriate it being nearing the end of 2010 to also repost it here. So this is what I wrote

A 31 year old me will be:

• in a serious relationship
• having a successful career
• Have travelled to 5 continents ;)

It is thought that young girls spend their childhood dreaming up the perfect wedding. I don’t remember doing such a thing, but sometime in my teens, i came across this song and thought that its such an amazing song.

I remember going to my teacher’s wedding, and she played the piano as she and her husband sang a duet. I forgot the song but their performance was so full of love that I wish (hope?) that if my future husband can sing, the song below would be what I would like him to sing during our wedding ^_^.

That is..if i actually do get married. haha

If you asked me about a month ago how my life was, I would have told you that I’m very happy with my life. I would have said I’m not wanting for anything, that I have everything I wanted. I have a job I love, I hang out with great friends, I spend free time boardgaming, my relationship with my family was good and my personal life was, well, good.

Then recently it hit me, as I’m turning 26, I am only 4 years away from the big three-oh. I don’t know why people think its a huge milestone in a young person’s life but apparently it is.

So looking back at my older posts, I apparently wrote nothing last year (too busy with life?) but the previous two years, I’ve had significant things happened in my life, such as in getting into (and out) of a relationship and getting more independent. Interestingly I was also in Melaka during my 24th birthday. Heh!

So now that I’m turning 26…

I could look at it this way : I am a 26 year old with a job that is the lowest rung of the ladder, a single lady without even an inkling of a stable relationship in my life, still living with my parents and have no property to speak of, or even proper savings for that matter.

Or I could look at it this way : that besides all the (negative stuff) above and tho sometimes I feels like its “me alone against the world”. I am living and breathing every day and good friends who will travel to Melaka with me. Whatever it is, I know I can fall back on my family.

Two sides of a coin. Two ways to look at things ey? (Such a typical libra, is what my Aree would say).

So yea, Happy Birthday to me :)

p/s: Besides Nani who thought my birthday was on 24th Sept, my parents in KL and my sister in UK was the first few people who actually called me at midnight to wish me. See what I meant in option 2? <3

So I guess I kinda failed in my 30 Things in 30 Days challenge. It was a lot more harder than I thought. At one point I had to write 2-3 posts within the same week because of events and movie reviews. I’m trying to get back on track now so hopefully things will get more updated around here.

Life has been so-so lately. Its puasa month here which for some reason means my weekend is packed with buka puasa events. I try to eat at home most nights on weekdays because of that. The traffic in the evening is horrid due to everyone rushing back. Sometimes I feel like I should just stay late in the office to avoid the jam but the other part of me feels like I want to get home early.

Work has been interesting. New changes, new people and more interestingly, new clients. Of course that means having to read up on new things and keep myself updated. Of course not everything is fine and dandy. I can’t really talk much about that but I’m hoping that difficulties will sort themselves up (and soon because its starting to irritate me).

I’ve not been sleeping well lately. Late nights, tossing and turning. Headaches during the day which I highly suspect its because of lack of sleep. Took MC last week because of bad flu so managed to rest somewhat. Anyone have tips on how to sleep early? I seem to get distracted by the computer a lot so Im trying to switch off the PC earlier. Well, I try.

Yea, so I think that’s about it. Taraa!

p/s: I hvnt updated my WP coz I have to download the database and re-create a new one because the mysql version is diff. But im worried something wrong might happen and the whole thing crashes T_T

“I’m usually reluctant to meet ppl from my past because I feel that I’m different now and
I’m not sure how they would feel about that.”

My mind apparently likes to go on overdrive after hours so I tweeted this last night. We all change in a certain extent when time passes. we are not the person we were last week, a month ago, 6 months ago, 1 year ago, 5 years ago. Experiences & time taught us things that will effect our thinking and, ultimately, actions. Also not only mentally but perhaps physically as well.

“Different” might be good for me. But is it good to everyone else? Or vice versa. Example: if I were a partying girl before and decided to make a change and cut down on that lifestyle, my “kaki” would think that the change was “not good” for them because it means they are missing out another person in their clique.

Or say your meeting an old friend: You recently changed your physical look (fatter/thinner/darker/fairer/haircut/style) and the last time you met this friend was 2 years ago, would she/he not remember you as how you were before? Would he/she be surprised to see you now? Would that surprise be positive or negative?

I guess we are usually more concerned especially about what the opposite sex thinks of us ( don’t lie guys, I know you feel the same too). But i think this applies to everyone. Like @karenique said on twitter, “general public are not accustomed to change. and when we stop living their version of us, it’s bad.”

Is this an indication of low self esteem? I don’t really think so. I personally like to think we all have our little “fears” and “doubts” every once in a while. This is one of mine. Which is why I don’t like reunions.

Now back to my original paragraph, what do i do? My “coping mechanism” would be to avoid it. When some people (please note that this does not apply to everyone) asks to meet up, I find it hard to set down a date and time. I have inconsistent working hours so I don’t really know when I leave the office everyday (which is TRUE btw) but sometimes I will just say that I’m “busy” and leave it at that. I’m sorry but that’s just how I deal.

So when the past catches up on you, how do you respond?

P/s: to that old friend who asked me out recently, we’ll meet sometime next week, ok?

I know many little girls dream of their wedding. Planning where, who, what to the most minuscule of details. I was never that type of girl. Unlike some of my friends, I did not have a perfect picture of a wedding in my mind, ready to just insert the face of the perfect person and then live happy ever after.

But I’ve been to my share of weddings – friends, relatives and strangers. And taking the best points from each and observing the pros and cons, I have a rough idea of what I want – though of course it really depends on: (1) if I *DO* eventually get married (2) where and most importantly (3) with whom.

I would like a wedding in a church. A big church where everyone will be invited to come. Then (as my mom is Chinese), back to the home for some tea ceremony where we would have to serve tea to my maternal uncles and aunties with them bestowing blessings and (hopefully big) ang paos.

Then at night, we would have dinner in a garden-type of setting. I’ve been to a number of garden weddings and there’s just something about a garden wedding that is romantic. Proper food – none of that fine dining stuff – and good wine. Of course the whiskey or two. And music, live music if possible, with piano playing love songs and instrumentals.

What can I say, perhaps I am actually a romantic in the deepest recesses of my heart.

* This is part of the 30 Things in 30 Days Challenge *

This is a very old photo, I think 2003-2004. People change, things change but the memories still remain.

*This is part of the 30 Things in 30 Days Challenge*

Hurm. My perfect first date wouldn’t have to be in the most expensive of restaurants, in the most lavish of ways. It can be a simple dinner or lunch but most importantly, the conversation has to be good. I always like a guy who can carry a conversation. He doesn’t have to have similar interests and thinking as I don’t like people who are like a puppy dog, following the lady’s every move and whim.

But yea, in short. A good meal and good conversation would be perfection. <3

p/s: take note future suitors/interested people/crushes. Hehe!

*This is part of the 30 Things in 30 Days Challenge*

It’s was a Monday, 25 April and while we’re all dragging ourselves through the day, I thought of this idea.

There was this hashtag on twitter #100thingsaboutme but I think its kinda silly do it on twitter, mostly because of the lack of space (140 char). Not to mention that it felt rather spammy.

I was interested to do it but decided to do it on my blog and update this one post periodically with photos and interesting facts. Now lets see how long it takes me to get to 100 things. Hehe!

25 Apr – Fact 1: I collect cat figurines

This is not really a common hobby I think. But I started when I was staying in Sabah and everytime I went back to Kuching, I’d buy a cat figurine. So now, most of the time when I’m travelling I try to find a cat figurine to buy and take home. The above pic also has figures of other stuff collected from travels

Yep, its that year end post again. Reflections on 2010 and hopes and dreams for 2011.

2010 was truly a life changing year for me. It was the year that I met countless of people. It was the year I changed jobs. It was the year I did less of some things and more of others. It was a good year.

The Year of Tweetups

This year, it was the year that I went for a lot, and I do mean A LOT of tweetups. The problem for me about tweetups is having to remember whose face is connected to which twitter handle.

I must admit that until now I’m confused who some my twitter friends are (unless they put their faces on their display). Tip : That’s why I don’t address people often by name and why I make sure people like Khir, Khairul or Rara is somewhere nearby so I can ask who is who. LOL!

So I guess for the new year, one of the things I have got to do is learn to remember people’s name more.

The Year of New Jobs.

Its actually funny how I decided to change jobs. I wasn’t looking for a new job, no. I just happened to come across someone’s RT of an RT of an RT about this person looking for someone to do social media. And I thought, hmm, why not? Best part is, the interview had to be at lunch time smack dab in the middle of KL – in KLCC. So I had to take an LRT frm Bangsar to KLCC and back within my lunch break.

So to cut a long story short, I quit my job doing programming and designing (something I spent 4 years of my life obtaining a BSc Hons degree for) to do social media. As I like to tell people, how else would you get paid to Facebook or Tweet? (Of course that was before I found out the amount of planning BEFORE and the number of reports AFTER. LOL)

The Year of Discovery

I discovered that time really does heal things. Though it might take years, but it does heal. I also discovered that without my “posse” of Pam and Aree, I went out less :( That led to more at home time and more time to dabble in projects (particularly baking).  Also I am now lazy to “doll up” and go clubbing for some reason which then leads to less drinking. I suspect it has to do with lack of “kaki”. I actually wouldn’t mind a night of fun every once in a while instead of cooped up at home and work.

It was also the year of lots and lots of road trips! I finally went to Cameron and Bukit Tinggi. I also went up to Genting (meh). Also road trips to Penang, Melaka, Johor Bharu and even Singapore! I was supposed to write a post about my trip to Singapore and Universal Studios but..er….hehe.

Resolution of 2011 : Try to visit as many states in Semenanjung so that I can complete all the states in Malaysia.

The Year of Less and More

This was the year that ironically though I’m working with bloggers, I myself as a blogger has deteriorated due to lack of time. Which leads to less blogging and lower hits (boo!). Also towards the end of the year I’ve felt the need to be more private – hence two different twitter accounts and a private Facebook acc.

So yea, more blogging this year I hope?

Anyway, here are the Top Blogposts of 2010

1. Malaysian Twitter Users put Rais Yatim on Trending topics #yorais (link) – This is actually quite funny. A bunch of Twitter-ers (namely bongkersz) started this yorais hashtag in retaliation to what he said about Malaysians shouldn’t be immersing themselves in Facebook and Twitter
2. The Body Shop Malaysia 2010 Sale + price list (link) – It was the big sale for TBS and I managed to get a pricelist (and spent a bomb)
3. Google Analytics Master Class (GAMC) Kuala Lumpur + Slides (link)– Google SEA organized a FREE class to teach us all about Google Analytics. I wrote a post about it and provided download links
4. Full List of Academy Awards (Oscars) 2010 Winners and Nominees (link) – I guess this really needs no explanation :)
5. Craft Brews Brewhouse and Restaurant Party (link) – Craft Brews invited us bloggers to sample their food and even gave us a mini brewery kit for us to try it out ourselves. Good food and good beer!
6. Digi and Maxis iPhone 4 Comparison Chart (link) – I did an table of comparison between the plans and the pros and cons for both. I think many people found it useful.
7. Artist Lineup for Arthur’s Day 2010 in Kuala Lumpur (link) – This was the list of all the awesome artists that came to KL! I was there that night but didn’t stay for long.
8. Accident on Cheras-Kajang Highway (BHP Incident) (link) – This was a really sad story about how, due to red tape, help was not able to be given to someone in need.
9. Twitter on ‘Men Carrying Handbags’ (link) – I did a quick survey on twitter asking friends what they thought about Men carrying handbags. I posted some of their reactions. What do you think?
10. Mencari Tetek Janda? (link) – Do you read the Google Adwords advertising when you’re visiting websites or checking gmail? Here’s a funny one.

There you go, round up of 2010. Hope everyone parties safe tonight!

Happy New Year 2011!!