Zestful One

Six Months Later…

Posted by IcedNyior on December 15, 2008  |  1 Comment

Its exactly six mths since that day.

I realize it doesn’t hurt anymore. Certain songs don’t make me teary and feel like wallowing in self pity. I can talk about it without feeling a deep pang in my heart. I can laugh about all the silly things we did – remember the glitter on the carpet? And also the tampon incident? My insane craving to have bbq chicken wings?

I’ve moved on, and I hope you have as well. Perhaps you still refuse to be friends. Maybe you want to. Its okay, it doesn’t matter anymore. Either way, I wish for nothing but the best things in life for you.

~ Me

Download Friday : The Game

Posted by IcedNyior on April 25, 2008  |  2 Comments

Sorry this is a bit late. Totally forgot to publish it, even tho I wrote this post already and saved it as a draft. LOL!

Anyway, unlike previous downloads, today I’m bringing you an interesting book by Neil Strauss titled The Game : Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists. This book was actually recommended by a guy friend of mine. It tells the story of how a guy learned the tricks of becoming a pickup artist/player. Interesting read.

How Jealous are You?

Posted by IcedNyior on April 19, 2008  |  3 Comments

They say jealousy is part of a healthy relationship. I’ve known girls who purposely makes their boyfriends jealous so that they feel like their bfs really do love them. I myself have tried to test the boundaries of jealousy in my relationship by asking what makes him jealous and what wont.

DiscoveryHealth has this (really) short quiz that you can take to judge how jealous you are in a relationship.

For the heterosexual men, click HERE. For the heterosexual women, click HERE. For the homosexual people, sorry there isn’t a quiz for you :( I don’t make the rules.

Anyway, this is my results:

Score = 16/100

What does your score mean?

Most people experience a certain amount of fear that their loved one could leave them for someone else. After all, these things happen, and when they do, it is usually very painful.

You, on the other hand, appear to have a complete lack of jealous feelings. If you were honest with yourself while taking the test, this means that you are extremely secure, strong, and independent. You know that if your partner ever leaves you, you will survive with your self-esteem and dignity intact.

You realize that even though you might love your partner very much, s/he is not the only fish in the sea, and that you would eventually find happiness with someone else.

His on the other hand was a 40/100. LOL! Sounds like a miss independent kinda thing huh? But that doesn’t mean I don’t love you baby :*

Personally, I don’t think that jealousy should be part of the judging of how much you love the person. If you are always so jealous and keep tabs on your other half, its not jealousy, but obsession and controlling. (jgn terasa Pam!)

Like I said earlier, a bit of jealousy is healthy in a relationship but the most important thing is that you must learn to trust each other. Agreed?

The waiting game

Posted by IcedNyior on April 14, 2008  |  3 Comments

I never liked to play the waiting game. It annoys me how some girls (or guys *jeling kat Z*) can just wait for their bf/gf to sms back then wonder every minute why they didn’t contact them. All kinds of things will go thru their mind, "Is he/she with someone else?", "He/she promised to call", "He/she must be busy at work…err..i think so" and then they’ll start overthinking it.

Well, today I was forced to play the waiting game. He had to work at a no-handphones-allowed place so he lent his hp with his sibling for the day. Made me promise not to call/text the whole day Sunday. Promised to call Monday in the wee hours of the morning.

Obviously he didn’t call la kan? If not I won’t be writing this post. Couldn’t sleep anyway so spent time texting my exbf (we parted as friends and besides he’s one of the very few Sarawakian friends I hv here in KL) and also making Brownie Biscuits (very easy biscuits. Recipe at Zestful Eats ). Baking is so theraputic for me. LOL!

Oh, back to the waiting game. So yea, Girls (and guy *jeling Z*) don’t bother waiting for that call/sms. Put your mind on other things that are more productive. Why? Because even if you overanalyze and think so much about it, it wont make him/her call you any faster. Plus, well most of the time you actually do realize and know the real reason why he/she didn’t call.

Like in my case, I’m pretty sure he fell asleep without remembering or perhaps tak larat to call. Ta-daaaa…simple.

p/s: If he/she doesn’t give a good reason. Then you pula give silent treatment lor, two can play at that game. LOL!

The Casanova’s Demise?

Posted by IcedNyior on October 27, 2007  |  No Comments

“End of the era of a casanova” said Pam. She met her already.

I shook my head and laughed in disbelief. After hearing lots of stories about this gal and that gal, he said he met someone. And it was serious. “Im not jahat like before already,” said A.

I finally met her – his new girlfriend today. “Oh..ini ke si dia yg I dah dgr byk citer,” I said as I salam her tangan. Sweet girl. A bit quiet tho. A ‘missy’ who drive a Jazz, quite classy looking juga.

We had some fun kutuking laughing at some of his bad habits – like the fact that he’s a damn lousy back seat driver who keeps making comments about our driving (“ehh..laju sgt”, “bahayanya u pusing mcm tu”, “takleh slow lagi ke?”) then keeps wanting to use his way (“naper u tak ikot jalan nie? naper ikot jalan tu? kalo u ikot……lagi cepat tau”).

They got good chemistry together, her feelings for him are especially obvious. The light touching on the arms when they talk, the lowering of the voice when they are on the phone with each other, the look in their eyes when they look at each other. Things I’ve seen him do with other girls…

Well, I hope, for her sake, the casanova has retired.

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But if I were her, I’d feel threatened by the fact that he has not one, but TWO close girl friends who knows him well enough to complain about his quirks and use his phone dgn tak malunya amongst other things.

But im not goinna tell him that…he’ll figure it out soon enough. Hehehe!